beauty + lifestyle + parenting

Spring fashion trends: loves and loathes

Since I'm not a fashion blogger, I don't really consider myself a trendy person. I am the type of person that knows what she likes, and wears stuff based on what feels comfortable. Sometimes I look like a total slob in yoga pants and a messy as heck mom bun, and sometimes my outfits are on point and trendy. One of my favorite magazines is People Style Watch and after seeing the 2016 Spring trend report, I had to weigh in on some trends that I absolutely love and some that I seriously loathe (meaning I wouldn't get caught dead in). 


Five trends I love

1. Pastels (icy blue and lilac)
I have relatively pale skin and I love how the beautiful, soft colors don't wash me out, and make me look so pretty.

2. Romance
Think lace, ruffles, silky fabrics... so feminine.

3. Stacking
I love a good ring, bracelet, & necklace stack- just not all at the same time.

4. Tough
Think army green, studs, girly combat boots in brown, and all mixed with feminine floral. It's pretty, chic, and functional at the same time.

5. Pantone colors of the year: Rose Quartz & Serenity
These colors are everywhere and I love it.


Five trends I loathe

1. Fringe 
Purses, shoes, jackets... in leather and suede... fringe is everywhere and I hate it.

2. Suede
I understand the saying "everything old is new again", but was there really a need to bring back suede? It's ugly, hard to clean, and feels super weird to me.

3. Pattern Mixing
A little bit of pattern mixing is cute: think subtle stripes and floral, but the obsessive multiple patterns in one outfit is ugly.

4. Wide leg crops (aka gauchos)
Ugh... ugly. I am short, and have wide calves... I do not need some weird pants making me look like an elephant.

5. Crop tops
I do not see the need to bare your stomach. Why is there a need?


Are you a fan of any of the Spring 2016 trends? Any that you loathe?

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Disappointing beauty products

disappointing beauty products

No one likes to write about disappointing beauty products- especially bloggers who identify as beauty bloggers. Why? Because it's bad business. But being someone that is obsessed with all things beauty, I have tried a lot of products. A lot of those products that I have absolutely loved, and unfortunately some times, some of those products that just haven't lived up to the hype for me. Today I am going to talk about the latter. The products that have disappointed me. 

one | Fresh Lotus Youth Preserve Face Cream with super 7 complex 


fresh lotus youth preserve face cream review

Being a cult favorite, and of course, highly recommended from Kate at The Small Things Blog, I really wanted to love the Fresh Lotus Youth Preserve Face Cream like I love all the other Fresh products. After lusting over it for months, I finally bit the bullet and grabbed a deluxe travel size from Sephora. That night, I slathered it on my face after washing, and instantly felt greasy. It was so heavy for something that is advertised as lightweight and supposed to be used day and night. So, I thought that maybe it was just me, and decided to look at the reviews.... everyone LOVED it. Out of 1100 reviews, there was only a handful of people that didn't like it and said the same thing that I experienced- that it was greasy and felt heavy. I may be in the minority, but I did return it. 

two | Nexxus Comb Thru Volume Finishing Mist Hairspray


disappointing beauty products

I am a big fan of Nexxus products, and when I ran out of my Kenra hairspray, I picked up a travel size of Nexxus Comb Thru Volume Finishing Mist Hairspray since it was advertised as color protective. The first thing I noticed was the smell. It was horrible and I wasn't able to breathe with even spraying a small amount (ie. bangs). The second thing was that the formula made my already thin hair feel sticky and weighed down. The only good thing was the hold- so if it was the 80s, and I wanted big hair, this would be my go to. Until then- it's garbage. 

three | Benefit Air Patrol BB Cream Eyelid Primer

benefit air patrol bb cream eyelid primer

On one of my many trips to Sephora, I was able to get a sample of Benefit's new BB eyelid primer. It was easy to apply, and blended nicely, but it did absolutely nothing to help my eye shadow "pop" or stay all day. 

four & five | TRESemme Beauty-Full Volume Shampoo & Pre-Wash Conditioner


tresemme beauty full volume shampoo and prewash conditioner

TRESemme is one of the first lines to actually make a reverse shampoo and conditioner, and market them. For those who don't know what the reverse shampoo/conditioner hype is- basically you condition first, wash it out, and then shampoo; the reason is because conditioner typically weighs down your hair. So after using the TRESemme combo, I was not a fan of the products. I didn't see a difference in the volume of my hair, but I did see that my hair was dry. Dry meaning that after I used the 2nd step- shampoo- my hair was so dry and I had to use a hair mask. I promptly returned the set. 


Have you ever tried any beauty products that disappointed you?

*Photo credit: Ashley Ella Design
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five things blogging taught me about myself

Last week, a gal that I am in a Facebook group with, had a great idea for a blog hop and of course I wanted to participate. (I will link the other blogs below, so you can go visit them too!)


1. I have changed
I have been blogging for a little over two years, and I can tell you, blogging has definitely changed me. From trends, to way too much hash tagging, to being overly active in social media, to becoming an extrovert, to wanting to spend some major money on a dslr just so I can take awesome blog pictures, to loving wine, to learning a new lingo (seo, html, stock) and more... I am no longer that simple jeans and t-shirt gal that hit publish on her first post (which was my thirty by thirty list) when she was twenty-eight. I have evolved into a beauty obsessed, wine drinking, writer. 

2. It's ok to ask for help
I've always been the person that wants to figure out everything out on her own. But with blogging, sometimes it's hard to do it by yourself, and asking for help is direly needed. I have learned that not only is it ok, it is actually encouraged. 

3. I am an extrovert online
This one actually just dawned on me this week- I am more comfortable with sharing my utmost secrets, confessions, and struggles with complete strangers, but hate doing it in real life. I have a Facebook page for the blog and promote the crap out of my posts on there, but I rarely promote on my personal page to people that I actually know. Online, I am a total extrovert- I am outgoing, speak my mind, and I'm not afraid of controversy, but in real life- yeah, kiss that shit goodbye if I don't know you. 

4. Writing is my therapy
If I am feeling depressed, sad, mad, or whatever other emotion, all I have to do is sit down and draft a post. It doesn't have to get published, but it can eventually be. It just helps to get the feelings out. 

5. Lists are my jam
Being a blogger leads you to think in lists, but I have realized that lists are actually awesome. They simplify everything and allow you to expand on the items on your own time. 


Are you a blogger? Have you learned anything about yourself though blogging?

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*Photo Credit: Mara Burkes Creative

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Valentia Royal Rose Hydrating Serum Review


*I was given product in exchange for a review, but opinions and thoughts are all mine*


A few weeks ago, Valentia (via Brandbacker) offered me the chance to try out another great product their skin care line- the Royal Rose Hydrating Serum. I was so excited when I saw that they wanted to work with me, since I've worked with Valentia in the past, and I must say that I love their products. All of their products are alcohol free, paraben free, cruelty free, and made with 98% natural ingredients.


Royal Rose Hydrating Serum*

A lightweight serum that boosts moisture and resilience while soothing and calming the skin.

This product:
  • Deeply moisturizes skin
  • Provides antioxidant protection
  • Soothes & nourishes dry skin
  • Smooths skin tone & texture
  • Boosts skin radiance

Key Ingredients:

  • Rose Damascena: One of the most nourishing and skin friendly natural oils, providing balance, moisture, and a variety of vitamins and minerals to the skin.
  • Niacinamide (Vitamin B): This potent vitamin has been clinically proven to fade away hyperpigmentation, sun spots, and acne..
  • Rosehip Seed Oil: Naturally rich in Vitamins C & A, these essential fatty acids work quickly to lock in skin's moisture.
  • Evening Primrose Oil: Provides light, non-oily moisture to the skin, never clogging or irritating the skin.
  • Bearberry: Reduces melanin production, thereby lightening the skin, revealing a brighter complexion.
  • Lavender: Heals the skin, treating pimples, wounds, and sores.

My thoughts:

Serums are great for your skin, and I had been on the look out for one that is formulated especially for overnight use- meaning that it is more potent. The Royal Rose serum definitely delivered on that aspect. It's only for night use, and it's jam packed with natural ingredients to make your face feel ah-mazing.

I've used the hydrating serum every night for the past two weeks, and haven't broken out, due to my sensitive skin. Most products will break me out, but my face has yet to show any signs of being visibly angry with the serum. The serum doesn't feel heavy, and when I layer on my moisturizer, my face isn't greasy. I love the slight rose smell, and it does fade within a few minutes. 

Honestly, I think this is a great serum for people looking for something extra hydrating, and safe for sensitive skin. 


*Information has been supplied by Valentia


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Ten things I will never do, and I am totally ok with it

Pinterest boards are all filled with seasonal bucket lists, 30 by 30 lists, a list of things you want to do in your lifetime, lists of children's activities that you want your child to experience... but no one ever has a list of "things I will probably never do". Today I am making that list. The list of things that I will  never do, and guess what, I am totally ok with it. 



1. Learn to play the piano
I am too old, and not coordinated enough. I did play clarinet in middle school/high school, but that lonely woodwind instrument will be the closest I will get to playing music with a part of my body. 

2. Visit the seven wonders of the world
First, this would be cool to do. Second, even though it's cool, I have no interest in actually doing it. And since they are the seven wonders of the world, they would be so crowded and not even worth it.

3. Swim with sharks
Swimming with something that views me as lunch is a no-go for me. 

4. Walk on all continents
Sure, I would love to visit Europe, but Asia kinda freaks me out. And so does Africa- they have rather large bugs that may or may not be the size of my head. 

5. Go rock climbing or climb any famous mountain
I'm not a huge fan of heights and I am so not athletic enough.

6. Stay at an underwater hotel in Fiji
Sounds cool, but what about all the water pressure? And the claustrophobia? Yeah, no thanks. 

7. Go to space
Not only would it be expensive, but I'm not a fan of heights or ZERO gravity. Why would anyone just want to float around and crap in a bag?

8. Learn fluent Spanish
Been there, tried to do that. I know enough to get me around, but not enough to not get kidnapped in Mexico. 

9. Run for a political office
I've done a great job of clearing out horrible Facebook photos, but I had way too much fun after I turned 21 for someone to go digging in my past.

10. Go hunting
I get choked up when I find out that a favorite makeup brand tests mascara on little bunnies, so I highly doubt that I would be able to kill a sweet little forest creature.


Is there anything that you'll never do, and are ok with it?

*Linking up with September Farm
**Photo credit Rekita Nicole

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parenting: the possible diagnosis of a mental disorder

I've been debating on whether or not to press publish on this, and I guess today I am... I mean know I rarely talk about my deep down personal life, especially the bad parts, but today it's going to get real up in here.


Ever since I can remember, I knew I wanted to be a mom. I wanted the whole shebang- husband, kids, dog, and a white picket fence. I wanted the sense of being needed. I wanted to be called mommy. And once Lil Man was born, I knew my dream had come true.

And the first few years were great. Sure, I went through some battles with my depression, but I got it under control, and really loved being a mom. I loved it through the hard times of not being able to breast feed, of having to switch to soy formula, of potty training, of tantrums. 

I learned alot about parenting... but nothing could compare me of a possible pending diagnosis of ADHD or Aspergers. And I say pending, because I can see what is going on, but I have yet to go to the appointment for Lil Man (it's next week).

At first, I didn't want to see it. Sure he was a hyper lil kid, he got too excited about normal things, and couldn't sit still, but everyone, including the doctor at his four year check said that he was just high strung. But she did tell me that once Lil Man got into school, they might tell me that he was ADD or ADHD. I just shrugged off her concern, and went about my life, for the simple fact of knowing my kid and knowing that every kid in some way shape or form, has ADD or ADHD. In short, I was oblivious.

Then my mom started making comments about how Lil Man was like my brother. My brother who had had a diagnosis of ADD/ADHD Bipolar manic depressive at the age of 3. My brother who when he was in his teens, finally concluded that with everything else, he was also on the Autism Spectrum, and had Aspergers. I still didn't want to see it. Because, to me, having a diagnoses of any of those things, would put a target on my child's back. In school and in public. And no parent wants that. Ever. 

But I did start looking in to a Montessori school, and I was all gung ho for it... until I saw that it was going to cost me over a grand a month to send my kid there. And then that idea was shredded and the decision to send Lil Man to public school was final. 

But things didn't stop there. Once we got Ellie, Lil Man started not listening more. I would tell him multiple times to leave the dog alone, and to not be mean to her. And to pick up his toys, because she would chew them up. But nothing I said seemed to get through to him. Nothing anyone said seemed to get through to him. And it was aggravating. Needless to say, there was lots of time outs, because even thought I believe in spanking, I didn't think it warranted it. 

The kicker to all of this is when we were sitting at Chili's and our waitress asked when Lil Man was diagnosed, and I was all sorts of blindsided. I politely said that he hadn't been and was just a normal five year old. When she went on to say that her child had the same issues, I still denied that anything was wrong with my kid. Because admitting that there was, made me feel like it's my fault. Like I did something wrong.

I mean, maybe I should have seen everything coming, considering that they talk about how ADD and ADHD is inherited, and the fact that my brother, and my nephew have both been diagnosed. Maybe my child was screwed from the get go? Maybe I shouldn't have just turned a blind eye and embraced the fact that my child, the tiny human I grew inside of my body, was not normal.

Overall, I feel like I have failed as a parent. I feel like I should have stopped to think about what everything everyone was saying. I feel like maybe if I would have admitted there was something wrong, he would have gotten the help he so desperately needs. 

But the stigma still worries me. With kids that have physical disabilities,  you can see them with your own two eyes. You aren't oblivious to what is right in front of you. And other parents aren't either. In fact,  they encourage their kids to play with the disabled kid to make them feel like they belong. But with the kid that has the mental disabilities like ADD, ADHD,and Aspergers.... inclusion is hard. The child looks normal, but play is rough because they are awkward in social settings, don't pick up on clues, and are impulsive. Plus when your kid starts rattling off different repetitive things, other kids get scared. And so do the parents. They almost act like your child is HIV and their kids aren't vaccinated. 

I've gone though this type of stuff with my brother and as a parent, I am scared to death for my child. I'm scared that he won't be able to make friends, do well in school, or be somewhat normal. What ever skewed view of normal I have in my head anyways. 

I don't know what the future holds and maybe I'm just being a worry wort, but I'm praying for something like hope. And patience. Yes, definitely some patience... because I am seriously going to need it. 

*I know I may sound a little petty, cause the diagnosis hasn't come yet, and if/when it does, it's something that is small compared to birth defects and other worse things, and I apologize for that. I am grateful that Lil Man is physically healthy. 

Does your child have a diagnosed mental disorder? Or even a pending one? How did you deal?

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annoying things about Facebook

You love Facebook. I love Facebook. We all love Facebook. It's a great networking site that you can make new friends & keep up with the old, sell your unwanted stuff, and even get your daily news. Facebook can be one of the most personal of all the social media outlets. And one of the most annoying. Personally, I have have been becoming more private for certain reasons, and in addition to those reasons, I also have some pet peeves... 


1. Game invites
Enough with the damn invites already... I've had enough. I mean, sure I used to play, like when I wasn't working and was pregnant- so I didn't have anything better to do- but now, I have responsibilities and really don't like to be on Facebook more than the norm. 

2. People that share my personal photos
A friend of mine and my parents' always used to share my personal photos of my son on their own wall. I had asked them to stop, but of course, it still happened, and I deleted them. But my questions are: 1) why would you share someone else's photos of their kids, on your OWN wall, when you aren't a grandparent or close family member, and 2) again, why would you do that?

3. Ambiguous posts
You know those posts where people are like "prayers needed", "I can't believe what just happened", "karma's a bitch", or song lyrics that never allude to anything, and result in a bunch of comments that ask "what the hell happened" and "are you ok"? Like the picture above with a pineapple that has nothing to do with Facebook. Yeah, that shit. 

4. The new react buttons
Really Facebook... ugh! We have been asking for a dislike button for a rather long time, and now we get these weird reaction button. So if I post something, and some reacts with the angry face, how the hell am I supposed to take that? Or what about the sad? All I wanted was a thumbs down button. 

5. Drama
For the love of everything good in this world, can we please stop the drama. And the fighting. I hate when people post the woah is me posts and then get mad when people tell them to shut up or give suggestions on how to fix their situation... really?

6. Amen, animals dying, money laying around
Just stop. Re-posting will not help others, and you are just annoying. Please stop cluttering up my feed. 

7. Bragging
Sure I am happy when someone is able to buy something, but continuously bragging about how you went on vacay... built a house... got a new car... etc, doesn't not look good. 

8. Facebook Invites
What ever happen to the old fashion here's a text telling you when my next function is? What, you don't talk to me, so you wouldn't have my phone number, but you still expect me to come to your baby shower after two years of not talking? 

9. Selfie overload
I get that everyone has their own page, but when you have a whole album dedicated to your selfies (gym, work, post-sex, whatever), you may have an issue. #justsaying #saveitforsnapchat

10. Group Messages
I get that sometimes they are necessary- like sharing a new address or something, but please stop. I get about two lines into the message, and have to leave like the ten people before me. 


Is there anything that annoys you about Facebook?

Linking up with Karli from September Farm


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My favorite apps for blogging

Apps. Everyone has them. Everyone uses them. Everyone loves them, and they tend to make our lives a bit easier. Today, I am going to talk about my favorite apps that make blogging a bit easier for me. 

favorite apps for blogging


VSCO
Since I don't have a DSLR, I use my phone for the majority of all of my picture taking- blog and personal. VSCO makes my life easier, since I don't have to upload the pictures into my computer, edit with PSE, and post. I can just edit right on my phone, in my free time, and then upload them into the blog. VSCO has alot of preset editing filters already installed, and they come out with free ones every so often. But you can also buy filters if you want. 

Blogger
I use the blogger platform- hence the .blogspot.com. I love that the app allows me to draft a post, add in photos, and publish all from my phone. Unfortunately, it doesn't add my signature to all of my posts, and I can't exactly link anything, so I do have to get onto my computer to finish and polish posts, but it's nice when I have a post idea and need to get it down. 

Bloglovin
I am inlove with Bloglovin. I follow so many blogs, and it's nice to have the posts in one spot.

Twitter
The twitter app helps me stay in touch with all of my followers and when I want to share something from my Etsy shop, it's a nice short cut to share it directly to twitter. 

Snapchat
Snapchat is by far my favorite app, because nothing is permanent in Snapchat. Well, unless you want to pay to save snaps, but that's not my point. Snapchat allows me to see a different side of bloggers- the everyday, unedited side.


What are your favorite apps you use for blogging?



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links & loves

I usually don't do a Sunday post, but today I apparently am. I've been up since about 4:30 am due to the time change, a sick child, and a bad dream; and now I'm bored (even though we are watching Space Jam). So since the hubby is out fixing the car with his friend right now, I figured I would tell y'all about some of the things I've been loving lately.



On Friday, I decided to get back into sponsoring... and made a new friend. Her name is Kate, and you should go check her out.

*Also on Friday, I made some new blog buttons, so if you are up for swapping, let me know via email or twitter, and I will send one over (in the size you need of course). 

Old navy just came out with their new Spring prints... I love this shirt, this shirt, and this shirt; & everyone needs this cardigan in their lives. And if you order online, most pieces are 40% off... 

Ulta's 21 days of beauty sale started today. There are lots of "beauty steals" & free gifts with purchase. 

I got this serum last week from Valentia, and it's slowly becoming a holy grail beauty item.

It's amazing what you can learn online... I was able to redesign my logo for my Etsy shop with a simple tutorial, and it looks so much more professional. 

This video from Cian Twomey. What he talks about, goes the same for bloggers, and it's sad. 

This cream is my holy grail beauty moisturizer. It's cheap and effective. 

This song by Flo Rida. This song from The Chainsmokers. This song from Charlie Puth. 

This post from From Roses. 


Well, that's all.... Happy Sunday :)

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things that made me happy

This week was actually better than last. Hell, it was better than the last few weeks. No, I didn't get that job yet... I actually had gotten a call back from one to schedule a test for today, and couldn't go because a) I have to work and b) after work I have an MRI. So basically I can kiss that one goodbye. Oh well, if it is meant to be, it will happen.

Anyways, today I wanted to talk about five things that made me happy...



1. I finally got the Urban Decay Naked2 palette.Sure, I didn't need it, but honestly, I really wanted it. I have been using the Naked Basics and Naked2 Basics palettes for close to two years now, and I love them, but I really needed some new "neutral" colors. The Naked2 pallet not only has some matte colors, but also has some shimmery ones, and the pigment is amazing. 

*Of course, after I buy the Naked2 from Sephora, Ulta has a special going on from 3/13-4/2, that if you spend so much, you get a deluxe Perversion mascara and make up setting samples... #facepalm


2. Play-doh is such a simple, yet rewarding activity. I haven't been feeling the greatest the past few weeks few months, and everything has been a struggle for me. Even parenting...
My son has been asking to play Play-doh, and we actually sat down to play, after numerous "Maybe later"s. He was so happy, and I have to say, it did make me really happy to see his face and I almost cried when he said "Thank you Mommy, I love you."


3. Target released new Easter dollar section items... wooden signs, bunnies, egg centerpieces, chalkboard signs, note cards, to do lists... all in pretty pastels. A bloggers dream!

4. Ellie is doing so good with us. She is 14 weeks now and a ball of terror. She talks alot, tears everything up, is loyal ( where ever I am, there she is), and is so loving. She gets excited to see each of us, especially Lil Man, after being gone, and she seriously attacks Lil Man in the morning with kisses. 


5. This blog post from Love the Here and Now, this post from My So-Called Chaos, this post from From Roses, & this post from The Lazy Genius Collective. 


Anything make you happy this week?

In case you missed it: Where I get FREE stock photography


*Photo Credit: Rekita Nicole

**Cheers to the weekend and Diary of a Real Housewife, the high five for Friday gals, the oh, hey Friday gals, Momfessionals & gang, Meet @ the Barre,the Friday blog hop, Love the Here and Now, Eat Pray Run DC, & the Five on Friday gals

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Where I get FREE stock photography

Clean, crisp pictures are the foundation of every blog post. When I first started blogging, I would be the type of person to Google what I wanted, download, and then post the pictures on my blog. Well, when I found out THAT was illegal... I immediately took down all of the pictures. My first thought was to use my own pictures, but honestly, I don't have a DSLR or a studio set up in my house, so thank goodness I found out about FREE stock photography.

Currently, I have yet to pay for any of my stock photography. And that has gotten me by, so today I am sharing ten places that I love.

free stock photos for blogging


Styled Stock 
Styled stock is also called flat lay photography and is always beautiful. You do need to credit the designer.

Wonderlass 
Sign up for her mailing list, and you will recieve access to her resource library which includes free stock photos, printables, and more. 

I love how Rekita gives bloggers some rather beautiful photography, and the freebies she gives is amazing- think moodboards for Photoshop. You can grab some free stock here, and also sign up for her mailing list to gain access to others. 

Ashley's photography is beautiful and blogger orientated. She gives a total of 20 free stock photos, here and here, and let's just say I have used a great deal of them. 

Shay specializes in flat lay photography and does a great job of it. She doesn't offer any freebies on her website, but you can sign up for her mailing list, and you will receive an image for signing up, and then 3-4 images each month (like the one at the top of this post) in your email. Plus if you want to buy some flat lay photography, you can check out her Etsy shop.

A Prettier Web
Another pack of beautiful blogger orientated free photos for signing up.

Pinterest Strategist
Some great layouts aimed at Pinterest, but great for blogging.

Copyright Free Images
Generally you do not have to credit the designers, but you do need to credit the website.

Unsplash
Before I ventured into the world of styled stock, Unsplash was my go to. And still is, when I can't find what I'm looking for. I love how you can find exactly what you want and they are completely editable- meaning you can add text. Ten photos are added every week. *The photo above is from Unsplash

Pixabay
Another great place for just some plain ole stock pictures, and every picture is gorgeous in it's own way. Plus you can do what you wish with them.

StockSnap.io
Hundreds of photos are added every week, and they are extensive. You can search for what you want or browse through the gallery.

Superfamous Studios
Beautiful landscapes that are crisp, clean, and interesting.


If you want to pay for stock- alot of bloggers do- you can search Etsy or Pinterest for styled stock you can buy. Most photos are not very expensive- and you can even grab some photo packs on sale.

Do you use stock photography? Where do you get yours?



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Five thoughts

This week sucked... the car is broke again, the dog chewed on my favorite boots, my back has been hurting really bad, the kid doesn't want to listen, the weather sucked... oh man, I really sound like a bad country song. So instead of writing that really bad country song today, I am going to give you five thoughts that have been in my head. Cool?


One // On a serious note, I'm getting a bit worried... my federal student loan goes into repayment in April, and I have yet to get the job that I have been searching for. I have put in like eight applications, and haven't heard ANYTHING back. Sure, there are programs set in place to help people that can't afford their federal student loan payments, but last year, they quoted me at a rather large payment, and I had to opt for a deferment. We just did our taxes... we made a considerable amount more last year than in 2014. Basically I had a plan, but it didn't go like I wanted it to and I know that I am going to be looking at a really high payment. So, right now, I'm going to pray that an opportunity shows itself in the immediate future. Or I may have to sell a kidney... 

Two // If you haven't heard of Mr. Cian Twomey and haven't seen his videos, you need to. Like ASAP! Cian is hilarious. If I'm ever having a bad day, all I have to do is watch his videos and my day is instantly transformed. Seriously. 

You can find him on Facebook, Youtube, and even Snapchat
You can thank me later.

Three // If they can make a kid centered Google- called kiddle, then why not a kid focused Youtube? Lil Man watches Youtube all the time on my parents' phones and sometimes he tends to find GTA... yeah. Anyways, to the makers of Youtube, can we get a kid centered Youtube please?

Four // Life lately has been hard and I am at my wits end on most days (a post for another time), but this post by Ally from You Are More really hit home... 

Other posts that I really loved this week are:
Thoughts on income reports | Love the Here and Now

Five // So many thoughts are running though my head to fill this number five slot... I could talk about how I love the fact that Blindspot came back on this week, or that I LOVE Kelly Clarkson's new song, or that I really want the new Samsung S7, or how I really want to go see Deadpool... I don't know. 

Well, that's all for today :)

ps... in case you missed it:

*Photo Credit: Rekita Nicole

**Cheers to the weekend and Diary of a Real Housewife, the high five for Friday gals, the oh, hey Friday gals, Momfessionals & gang, Meet @ the Barre,the Friday blog hop, Love the Here and Now, Eat Pray Run DC, & the Five on Friday gals


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why I could never be a mommy blogger

Mommy Blogger: a blogger who is a mom and writes incessantly about her child/children, gives parenting tips & reviews products, all while enjoying a glass of wine while their child is down for a nap. Sure, there is more to being a mommy blogger, but for today's purposes, we are keeping it sweet and simple. And it's been quoted that there are about 4.2 million mommy bloggers on the interwebs; so you know they can be a force to be reckoned with. Before I settled on lifestyle blogging, I thought about identifying as a mommy blogger; I had my son, and I wanted to share cute pictures and my thoughts and opinions on being a mom. But I soon figured out that mommy blogging was not for me... for a few reasons. 

being a mommy blogger

I refuse to limit myself to one aspect of my life. 
I am more than a mom. I am a beauty obsessed, shopping addict who has a master's degree and loves to write. I am also a wife, and wine glass painter. Identifying as a mommy blogger would be limiting myself to just the one niche in the bloggy world. 

Mommy bloggers can be more about the reviews then the blogging. 
I will admit that I do follow a handful of mommy blogs, and they generally write some great content, but some others, the ones who give mommy bloggers a bad name, are all about the reviews and giveaways. Sure, getting some free product in exchange for a genuine review is all well and good- it's a great perk of blogging- but constantly posting reviews and nothing else, kinda tends to get on my nerves. It's one of those things that will make me instantly stop following. 

It's a mommy blogger eat mommy blogger world. 
Bloggers are all about sharing opinions. Yes, some share actual research, but most of the posts are about their experiences and opinions about a certain subject. Being a mommy blogger and believing that co-sleeping, vaccinations, letting your child take the lead in potty training, and more, may be your opinion, but not another blogger's opinion. Sharing your thoughts on something like parenting can open you up to viral shaming or even black listing. Some mommy blogger readers can be super judgmental and mean. 

I'm wary of posting my kid's photo online. 
A requirement of being a mommy blogger is posting your kids... and their cuteness. Back in 2014, I wrote a post about my issues with privacy. Basically I talked about how the idea of my kid's photo ending up on a porn site scared the shit out of me... because at that point in time, when I Googled my blog, my kid's face was everywhere! I chose this life of blogging and I am choosing to post MY pictures, but my kid is too young to actually consent to being photographed and then having his photo shared across the interwebs. Yes, there are ways to prevent the photo stealing- like watermarking and the whole "no pin" html, but there is no reason that I should have to take the extra step. 

My personality. 
I tend to cuss here and there, and I advertise that I love and drink wine. So... maybe I wouldn't be a good candidate or role model for mommy blogging. 


Now, I am not saying that being a mommy blogger, or identifying as one, is a bad thing. It's just something that I prefer not to do, because it's not for me. There are some great mommy blogs out there, like the ones that show the honest side of motherhood, and I would definitely recommend them to read. My favorites are Baby Sideburns and Scary Mommy

Are you a mom? Could you identify as a mommy blogger?

*photo credit: Ashley Ella Design

Always say yes to the wine.

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